Couples attractor set
From Mbscientific_wiki
Defining your attractor set for yourself and your partner; are your paths likely to come together?
Actually this exercise doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with having sex. It will tell you if you and a potential partner are likely to gravitate in the same direction. Along that path, if should you end up getting laid, having 2.4 kids, a house in the suburbs with a white picket fence and a dog called spot, then good for you. But even if not, it will tell you the set of attractors you have in common, are your lives likely to flow in the same direction, because if so, you are likely to make a go of it. Conversely, if not, you are likely to drift apart, no matter how cute you find each other.
We are part of the morphological flows. Our physiology, our brain circuitry, our behavior is defined by our genetic based and learned set of attractors that have a pull on us. Here you and your partner are going to use the triune brain model to define the set of attractors for yourselves. Individually, you are going to define a set of measures for your attractors, lets call it your attractor set or turn-on list. Then you can compare your metrics with your partner. Right there it should tell you the directions you are likely to gravitate towards.
So here we go. The triune brain model is made up of the reptile brain circuitry, the emotional brain circuitry and the cerebral brain. For each we are going to define a set of measures; you’ll essentially fill out a form. For each measure define a pull value from -10 to 10; 0 defining no attraction or repulsion, 10 defining maximal attraction, -10 defining maximal repulsion.
For example lets take a measure from the reptile brain metrics, say power drive, specifically attraction to money. Say you are a non-materialistic, spiritual type, so the pull of money may be small for you. So you may decide to give it a value of 3. On the other hand, you may fancy yourself as an empire builder, coveting all the money and power you can grab. Then you will give it a value of 10. Now suppose you (say you're a guy) and a potential partner (she is a she) decide to compare notes. Then you find out that she gave the power-money attractor a measure of 3 and you gave it a 10. So you talk about it and find out that, although you are both incredibly cute, she finds you to be a money grubbing pig and you find her to be a tree hugging hippie freak. Chances are you won't be meshing together all that well. On the other hand, if you both give it a measure of 3, and find out that you are both tree hugging hippie freaks, or you both give it a measure of 10 and find out that you are both money grubbing pigs, then you will probably blend well.
So go ahead and fill out the form, and let your partner do the same separately (no peeking). Then we’ll compare the set at the end. I bet you you’ll find it very revealing. You’ll sort of map a big picture of how you are wired and how your potential partner is wired.
Remember these are things that you are attracted to, not the things you are.
- A- Reptile brain metrics-
- A1- Food:
- A1.1-vegetarian -
- A1.2- carnivorous -
- A1.3- sea food -
- A2- Drugs-
- A2.1- tobacco
- A2.2- alcohol
- A2.3- recreational drugs (pharmaceutical and natural)
- A3- Power drives
- A3.1- material goods (house, car, boat, jewelry)
- A3.2- money
- A3.3- career
- A3.4- fame
- A3.5- physical strength and domination
- A4- Sex
- A4.1- sexy looks
- A4.2- sexy body
- A4.3- sexuality towards men
- A4.4- sexuality towards women
- A4.5- sexual intensity
- A4.6- sexual matrimony
- A1- Food:
- B- Emotional Brain
- B1- Activeness
- B1.1- homebody (reading, watching tv)
- B1.2- nature lover (gardening, cooking, camping, hiking, ocean activities)
- B1.3- athletics - (individual and organized sports)
- B1.4- going out (light) (restaurants, movies, walks, light concerts)
- B1.5- going out (heavy) (parties, clubs, bars, heavy duty concerts)
- B2- Social Behavior
- B3.1- Manners
- B3.2- Social Presence
- B3.3- Humor
- B3- Love and friendship
- B3.1- familial love (family oriented)
- B3.2- sexual love
- B3.3- friendship
- B3.4- parenting
- B4- Cerebral Passions
- B4.1- passion for arts
- B4.2- passion for sciences
- B4.3- passion for humanities
- B4.4- passion for nature
- B4.5- passion for animals
- B4.6- Passion for spirituality
- B1- Activeness
- C- Cerebral brain
- C1- physical sciences (physics, chemistry, engineering)
- C2- math and computer science
- C3- biology and medicine
- C4- art
- C5- music
- C6- religion
- C7- human studies (anthropology, sociology, political science, economics, history)
- C8- military studies
- C9- architecture
- C10- ecology
By the way, these categories aren’t set in stone. So, if you can think of any others, throw them in.
After you fill them out separately, get together and compare your attractor sets. Right off the bat you will find out a great deal about your partner as well as about yourself. These measure are subjective, so you may end up talking a good bit about how you came up with the values that you did. That, in itself, will teach you a lot about each other. That is not only what you value but how it is that you decide on a value. What you will find out is that as the result of this comparison you might actually want to modify your answer set. That is expected. It is the influence of a partner’s opinions, drives and outlooks. In fact if you periodically (say every six months or so) do this exercise and compare the results again, it would not be surprising that you may have gravitated towards one another. That is the act of going along the same directions codified in your measure set over a period of time. On the other hand you may find that you are in fact diverging from one another. There you’ll find the very act of pulling apart defined in detailed metrics as well.
Having said that, don’t be afraid of differences. Opposites on occasion do attract. You may gain a positive influence and develop new interests and drives. So in that sense you might find out that you complement each other. But beware of wide gulfs in your attractor sets. They are harbingers of forces that will in time pull you apart.
One word of advice, don't take this too seriously, this isn't Dr. Phill. Just have fun with it.
